S had a problematic relationship with her husband from the outset of her marriage. She suffered from violence that manifested itself in harsh verbal outbursts towards her, and her children. Her husband was diagnosed as needing psychiatric medication.
After three years of marriage, she filed for divorce but because her husband asked for “shalom bayit” she withdrew her request for divorce. After attempts to rehabilitate the relationship between S and her husband failed S applied for a divorce a second time.
This lawsuit was filed after professional attempts to rehabilitate the relationship came to naught, and after a hearing was held regarding alimony and the dissolution of the partnership in the apartment in the family court. S. asked the bet din to compel her husband to grant her a divorce on the basis of the violence he perpetrated against her and their children , his problematic behavior and unstable mental state. The bet din ruled that the parties should simultaneously undergo treatment by a clinical psychologist.
The psychologist determined that there was no chance that the parties could live together and that S’s husband suffered from a psychiatric illness that needed to be treated with medication. However 6 months later the bet din ruled that the couple needed to try to reconcile in spite of S’s husband problematic behavior. S. informed the bet din that she would not return to live with her husband. Subsequently her husband requested that S be declared a “moredet” (rebel) by the bet din.
After a further year and a half of hearings, the bet din concluded that the wife’s divorce claim should be dismissed, and that her husband should not be required to give her a get. The court recommended that the couple reconcile despite the psychiatrist’s professional opinion . S. appealed to the supreme rabbinic court and Rav Dichovski ruled that her husband had to give her a divorce within 30 days and if not he would be coerced to do so.
She appealed to the regional court to set a date for the divorce but the court preferred to ignore Rav Dichovski’s ruling to enforce the get.
This led S. to appeal again to the supreme rabbinic court and request that her husband grant her a divorce. S.’s husband agreed to give her a divorce for thirty thousand shekel and she rightly refused. In a subsequent hearing, the court demanded that the husband grant S a divorce and finally her husband granted her a get.
S was interviewed once she received her get:
“It was a difficult and dark time for me. The abuse I suffered from my husband was no less than the abuse I suffered by the batei din for not releasing me from my awful predicament and deciding that I should live with a person who was abusing me. Lucky for me, thanks to Mavoi Satum and thanks to the judge Rabbi Shlomo Dichovski I am a free woman today!